Sexuality and Marriage (discussion questions)

HS 4Here are the discussion questions that accompany the message that Kelly and I delivered this past weekend at Eastbrook Church, “Sexuality and Marriage.” This was the fourth and final part of our series, “Holy Sexuality.”

Discussion Questions:

  1. What was your view of marriage growing up?
  2. This week we conclude our series, “Holy Sexuality,” with a focus on sexuality and marriage. We will look at various passages in this study. Before you begin, take some time to pray, asking God to speak to you and transform you through this study.
  3. Whether you are studying alone or with a group, read Genesis 2:20-25 aloud. What level of commitment do you see in these verses about the marriage relationship before God?
  4. How is this similar to or different from the view of marriage in our world today?
  5. Now read Song of Songs 8:4-14 aloud. This passage is a richly poetic and almost surprising expression of the joys of love in marriage. What are the different aspects of love that you see in these verses?
  6. How does the community celebrate and guard love in this passage?
  7. What are one or two ways in which the example of the lovers in Song of Songs is helpful to you right now?
  8. Next we want to look at the challenges to married sexuality from Proverbs 5:1-23. Read that passage aloud and identify a few of the main challenges to holy sexuality in marriage.
  9. What antidotes to these challenges are presented in these verses?
  10. After looking at the challenges, it is clear that we cannot live this out from our own resources. What are some of the keys to committed sexuality in marriage from Ephesians 5:1-2, 21-33?
  11. What is the “profound mystery” that Paul connects to the marriage relationship in Ephesians 5:31-33? Why is this important?
  12. What is one major takeaway you have from this week’s study? If you are studying on your own, write it down and share it with someone this week. If you are in a group, take time to pray for one another about these things.

Sexuality and Marriage

HS 4My wife, Kelly, and I concluded the “Holy Sexuality” series this past weekend at Eastbrook Church by talking about sexuality and marriage. I was so glad to have Kelly join me for preparation and delivery of the message. She is such a gifted pastor and woman of God, and working together on this made the message so much better.

You can view a video of the message and the accompanying outline below. You can also listen to the message via our audio podcast here.

As always, I’d like to invite you to connect with us further at Eastbrook Church on VimeoFacebook, Twitter and Instagram.


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Ed Stetzer, “10 Things I’ve Learned after 26 Years of Marriage”

This past weekend at Eastbrook I spoke about marriage in our series on relationships, “Made for It.” On Saturday night, I shared a list from pastor and author Ed Stetzer entitled “10 Things I’ve Learned after 26 Years of Marriage.” Unfortunately, I was unable to share this list on Sunday morning because of time. There is a lot of practical insight here, so I wanted to make sure I shared with everyone. Here goes:

Here are ten things I’ve learned about marriage and relationships along the way.

1. Marriage is worth the investment. Yes, it is and investment. I know that it is not always easy, but it is always worth it. I’m thankful for a strong marriage.

2. You have to invest in a marriage for it to be worth the investment. It sounds strange, but it’s true– it takes continual investment on the investment. I’ve seen “perfect” couples—like some we knew in high school and college—get married, drift apart, and end up divorced. We did not. It’s not because we are perfect, it’s because we work hard.

3. Choosing your marriage partner is the most important human decision you will ever make. I’ve seen many, many miserable marriages. And a big part of that relates to bad marriage choices. My wife was/is beautiful, but that’s a really bad foundation upon which to build a marriage.Read More »

Marriage (discussion questions)

Here are the discussion questions that accompany my message on marriage from this past weekend at Eastbrook Church as part of our series on relationships entitled “Made for It.”

Discussion Questions:

1. Who has the best marriage you know and why?

2. As we continue with our series on relationships, “Made for It,” we want to explore the topic of marriage. Before you begin your study, ask God to speak to you through the Scripture.

3. When you look at Genesis 1:27-30 and 2:20-25, what do you learn about God’s intention for marriage from the beginning of creation?Read More »


Made For It-ThumbI continued our series on relationships, “Made for It,” this past weekend at Eastbrook Church with a message on marriage. I started the message in the creation accounts in Genesis 1 and 2, then built from there into Paul’s instructions for households in Ephesians 5, moved into some words about the role marriage has in God’s mission, and concluded with a variety of responses to specific questions I have received about marriage. There is so much that could be said about marriage that I had to limit myself in many ways.

The outline and presentation slides for the message are below. You can watch or listen to the message online here or download it via the Eastbrook web-site here. You can also visit Eastbrook Church on VimeoFacebook, Twitter and Instagram.

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