Hungry for Love


All of us want to experience love. Sometimes this hunger for love looks like a longing for friendship. Sometimes our longing for love surfaces in the desire for intimacy. At other times, this hunger for love is as basic as the desire to belong somewhere with someone. Near the beginning of Genesis, in the account of God’s creation of human beings, we are told that this basic longing for love is seen in the connection between Adam and Eve: “It is not good for the man to be alone” (Genesis 2:18). 

Elsewhere in Scripture we see that the hunger for love and connection is directly related to the fact that we have a built-in hunger for God. The Psalmist expresses this longing powerfully: 

“You, God, are my God,
earnestly I seek you;
I thirst for you,
my whole being longs for you,
in a dry and parched land
where there is no water.” (Psalm 63:1)

In the New Testament, Paul the Apostle echoes this longing for love in a prayer for early Christians about the significance of God’s love in our lives and growth with Christ. “And I pray that you, being rooted and established in love, may have power, together with all the Lord’s holy people, to grasp how wide and long and high and deep is the love of Christ, and to know this love that surpasses knowledge—that you may be filled to the measure of all the fullness of God” (Ephesians 3:17-19).

Our theme for this week is the hunger for love. Throughout this week’s devotional, we will explore how hunger for love relates to human love and divine love. 

Each week’s practice will feature some aspect of the process Paul describes for us in Ephesians 4:22-24, where we are to TAKE OFF something from our lives that has become corrupted or distracting and PUT ON in its place something God wants us to do.

Take Off: This week’s practice starts with taking the time to identify some of the false loves in our lives we try to find our self-worth through. You can begin by simply listing the relationships you turn to in order to find love, value, and acceptance in your life. Have any of these become unhealthy in some way? Are any of these causing you to compromise who you are and/or your values in order to be accepted or loved? Are any of these contractual (as long as you do this for me, I’ll love you) or codependent (they are enabling or encouraging poor choices in your life)? Pray for God’s wisdom in how to respond to what you have identified.

Put On: Take a step this week to enter into meaningful Christian community, whether through an existing relationship with a Christian, a small group of some type through church, or some other means. A meaningful Christian community is one where you can know (and are known by) other Christians, where you can pray for and encourage one another and where together you can interact with the Truth of God (through a study, discussion, etc.). If you need ideas for how to find community like this, please contact the Eastbrook Church office. Use the space below to take note of your experience this week.

[This a devotional I wrote with Jim Caler as part of the Eastbrook Church Lenten devotional, “Hungry for God.”]

You Belong in the Family (discussion questions)

Here are the discussion questions that accompany my message, “You Belong in the Family,” from this weekend at Eastbrook Church.

Discussion Questions:

1. When you hear the word, ‘family’, what do you think of?

2. This week, we are beginning a new series called “Family Portrait.” Whether on your own or with a group, begin your study by asking God to speak to you.

3. We are looking at some broad themes in the Scripture. To do this, we will explore a lot of Scripture. Read the following passages and consider what you think these verses are saying about the concept of ‘family’ and what it means to be a part of a family as Christians:

  • Matthew 12:46-50
  • 1 Corinthians 7:1-16
  • 1 Timothy 5:1-16

4. One of the key concepts in the New Testament related to family is our adoption by God as His children through the work of Jesus Christ. Read and reflect on what each of these Scripture passages says about adoption by God:

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You Belong in the Family

Family-Portrait-ThumbnailThis weekend at Eastbrook Church we began a new four-week series entitled “Family Portrait.”

My message this weekend focused on understanding God’s people as a family adopted as children of God through Jesus Christ. I built the message chiefly around Matthew 12:46-50, Galatians 3:26-29 and Revelation 7:9-10.

You can listen to my message at the Eastbrook web-site here. You can also follow the RSS feed for Eastbrook sermons or follow Eastbrook Church on Twitter or Facebook. The message outline is included below:

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Empathy and the drive to belong

Alan Hirsch first brought the following video clip from bestselling author and political adviser Jeremy Rifkin to my attention. In it, Rifkin investigates the development of empathy and the profound ways that it has shaped our society.

One of the most powerful concepts that Rifkin highlights is that the drive to belong is a more primary drive than the drive toward self-protection.

Secondly, Rifkin emphasizes the development of the concept of empathy over time. Empathy brings previously separate groups of people together. Whereas humanity was previously divided by tribal groups, religion brought tribes together through an empathic solidarity (think even of the twelve tribes of Israel). Later on in time, where humanity was divided by religion, empathic solidarity developed the concept of nation states where previously divided people-groups experienced a sense of unity. Rifkin wonders what would happen if we could develop our empathic solidarity beyond the current divisions into a world-wide empathic solidarity (incidentally, Rifkin notes current science that validates the concept of ‘Adam’ and ‘Eve’ ancestors from whom we derive a basic biological unity as a family of humanity).

What do you think? We are driven to belong, few would argue about that, but how does Rifkin’s account deal with basic biblical understanding of human fallenness? How does this validate – or not – Jesus’ introduction of the kingdom of God and the teaching of the Sermon on the Mount?

Watch this thought-provoking video below: