8 thoughts on “Hookups? – talk to me

  1. thats an interesting article matt. i’ve done my share of “hooking up” through out my high school days. i can definitely say that i have learned from that approach to a relationship. in my case they didn’t work. i also feel like my outlook on an intimate relationship would be healthier if i hadn’t approached relationships the way i used to. overall i have been able to learn from mistakes rather than let the mistakes destroy the present and future.

  2. Thanks for the honest response, Sophie. I especially appreciated hearing about your statement that your outlook on relationships would have been healthier if you hadn’t had these experiences.

  3. thats an interesting article matt. i’ve done my share of “hooking up” through out my high school days. i can definitely say that i have learned from that approach to a relationship. in my case they didn’t work. i also feel like my outlook on an intimate relationship would be healthier if i hadn’t approached relationships the way i used to. overall i have been able to learn from mistakes rather than let the mistakes destroy the present and future.

  4. Thanks for the honest response, Sophie. I especially appreciated hearing about your statement that your outlook on relationships would have been healthier if you hadn’t had these experiences.

  5. While I don’t know if hookups hinder the ability to have a serious relationship, I will say that I’ve never had a serious relationship come out of a hookup. The only long-term relationships I’ve had come from being friends first.

    Hooking up definitely changes relationships- for me at least- all my best girlfriends are girls I haven’t hooked up with.

    I don’t think hooking up will ever be something that goes away- people have the desire to be physically close to one another- even if it’s just for a night, or as friends with benefits; and a lot of people don’t want the hassle of a relationship and trying to figure out if someone is “right” for them before being intimate.

  6. While I don’t know if hookups hinder the ability to have a serious relationship, I will say that I’ve never had a serious relationship come out of a hookup. The only long-term relationships I’ve had come from being friends first.

    Hooking up definitely changes relationships- for me at least- all my best girlfriends are girls I haven’t hooked up with.

    I don’t think hooking up will ever be something that goes away- people have the desire to be physically close to one another- even if it’s just for a night, or as friends with benefits; and a lot of people don’t want the hassle of a relationship and trying to figure out if someone is “right” for them before being intimate.

  7. Rob, thanks for the feedback. There is an interesting differentiation between what we are looking for in relationships – something long-term or not. You said, “I will say that I’ve never had a serious relationship come out of a hookup.”

    There are obviously different sorts of aims in relationships and I think that the ‘hookup’ phenomenon simply highlights what are pursuits in relationships are.

    Unfortunately, many people are looking for something more only to find themselves stuck within the spiral of hookups.

  8. Rob, thanks for the feedback. There is an interesting differentiation between what we are looking for in relationships – something long-term or not. You said, “I will say that I’ve never had a serious relationship come out of a hookup.”

    There are obviously different sorts of aims in relationships and I think that the ‘hookup’ phenomenon simply highlights what are pursuits in relationships are.

    Unfortunately, many people are looking for something more only to find themselves stuck within the spiral of hookups.

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