Working through Conflict in Relationships

Made For It-ThumbThis weekend at Eastbrook Church I concluded our series “Made for It” with a message on working through conflict in relationships. Certainly we all deal with conflict in our relationships, whether friendships, work relationships, marriage, classmates or more.

The outline and video for the message is below, along with the presentation slides that accompany it. You can view and listen to the message online here or download it via the Eastbrook web-site here. You can also visit Eastbrook Church on Facebook, Twitter and Instagram.

Made for it: Dealing With Conflict in Relationship from EastbrookChurch on Vimeo.

Understanding Conflict (Genesis 3:12; 4:8; James 4:1-12)

  • A definition of conflict
  • Good conflict and bad conflict
  • The cosmic source of conflict: sin and evil (Genesis 3:12; 4:8)
  • The experiential causes of conflict (James 4:1-12)

Developing a Clear Eye about Conflict (Matthew 7:3-5; Luke 6:45)

  • A clear eye about oneself:
  1. Understanding the plank in our own eye (Matthew 7:5)
  2. Understanding what’s stored in our hearts (Luke 6:45)
  • A clear eye about others:
  1. Always seeing others as made in the image of God (Genesis 1:27)
  2. Understanding the sawdust in others’ eyes (Matthew 7:5)
  3. Understanding what’s stored in others’ hearts (Luke 6:45)

Responding to Conflict

  1. Faking peace by escaping (like Jacob fleeing his brother Esau in Genesis 28)
  2. Breaking peace by attacking (like Cain killing Abel in Genesis 4)
  3. Choosing to make peace (James 3:18):
  • Submitting to God and fleeing evil (James 4:7-8)
  • Taking up the character of Jesus Christ, epitomized by forgiveness (Colossians 3:12-13)
  • Working it out together with another (Matthew 18:15)
  • Inviting others to help when necessary (Matthew 18:16-17)

Leaning into the Gospel (Ephesians 2:11-22)

  • “you have been brought near” (Ephesians 2:13)
  • “For He Himself is our peace” (2:14)
  • “in one body to reconcile both of them to God through the cross” (2:16)
  • “He came and preached peace to you who were far away and peace to those who were near” (2:17)
  • “In Him you too are being built together to become a dwelling in which God lives by His Spirit” (2:22)


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